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Happiness, A Life of Happiness With A Simple Change In How You Look At Things
Happiness. A life of happiness really does boil down to a few simple concepts.
No doubt you have heard the phrase “change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”. This is such a powerful phrase because it points out that the one thing you always have control of is your thoughts — which means you can literally choose to feel happy, or not. How often do you exercise your power of thought to change your perspective and vibration when it comes to things going on around you?
Allow me to share with you a wonderful little happiness story that serves as a great example to illustrate this point.
Some time ago, our family went on a three week trip from Canada to New Zealand and Australia. It was a marvelous trip that provided the perfect example of the advantages we are blessed with by operating our own home based business — we are able to take our business with us and still enjoy the trip of a lifetime.
During the trip, we spent a week in Auckland, New Zealand, a week in Sydney, and a week in Cairns. The initial leg of the trip from provides the back drop for this story. Our travel time to Auckland spanned 39 hours from the time we left our house to the time we arrived at here at our hotel. We had stops in Vancouver, Honolulu, and Sydney on our way. It’s the flight — or more specifically the landing — in Sydney that I want to tell you about.
The leg from Honolulu to Sydney was about 10 and a half hours so it was a long flight. For the majority of passengers who started the trip from Vancouver, the flight was delayed by an hour in Vancouver and another hour or better in Honolulu (that delay was endured while we were on the plane and had to turn back to the gate to secure a trolley that came loose while we were taxiing for take-off).
Then, to top things off, about an hour or so after we left Honolulu there was an electrical problem with the video system, which led to some noisy crackling sounds and the smell of burning plastic filling the cabin from the overhead projector right above me.
As you can imagine, the idea of risking a cabin fire while at 34,000 feet above the Pacific Ocean did not appeal to anybody and the crew shut the video system down. So the flight now felt longer since there was no video entertainment to help pass the remaining 9 hours of the flight.
So it wasn’t necessarily the most ideal trip by the time we approached Sydney. But the best part was yet to come.
There was some “weather” in Sydney with rain and high winds. The last 20 minutes or so of our descent was very turbulent. As we approached the airport, our plane was lurching back and forth, side to side, and up and down. And it kept getting worse the closer we got to the ground.
The last few hundred feet put most amusement park rides to shame. It was breath taking, not necessarily in a good way for most of us on board. And the landing was very hard since we touched down on only the right hand side set of wheels first. For a moment the plane swerved sharply and you could literally cut the tension in the cabin with a knife.
Except for my then 4 year old son, Joshua.
For the last minute or so of the landing, his was the only voice in the cabin and he was providing a non-stop running commentary of the events. “Wow! This is awesome! Yee haa! All right! What a ride! Whoa! Yeahh! Race cars — Wow! Can we do that AGAIN! That was FUN!”
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As the plane shimmied back and forth leading many of us to wonder if it was going to catapult off the runway or flip over, my son was jubilant. After the the plane braked — screeched is more like it — very hard and finally came under control on the runway, he let out an exuberant cheer celebrating the exhilaration of the ride. “That was the best ride EVER! Can we do that AGAIN?!?”
A few seconds later, the rest of the passengers began a controlled, polite applause celebrating the fact we had landed safely. The crew chief announced to us over the intercom “Well, wasn’t that the perfect ending to a perfect trip! Welcome to Sydney.”
So here we were, all on the same plane ride, with the same circumstances and the same result. For most of the passengers on the plane, it was a plane ride from Hell. But for my 4 year old son, it was the “best plane ride ever”.
What a tremendous lesson. In the space of a few moments I suddenly found myself looking at the flight quite differently. Without the video distractions, I was able to get in some quality reading time, got some decent sleep to ward off jet lag, was well fed, landed safely, and experienced a hell of a ride with an amazing landing. What could be more perfect?
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Related postsOvercome Your Shyness With 7 Simple Tips
If you are looking for a way to overcome your shyness, there are some simple, no worry ways to do that … and they are deceptively simple.
Firstly, understand there is a distinct difference between being quiet and being shy. When you’re quiet, you know you have the option to speak, but you just choose not to do so. But when you’re shy, you’re plagued by discomfort, worry, or even anxiety in social situations.
No matter how shy you think you are, there are ways to train yourself to overcome this barrier. While you won’t turn into a social butterfly overnight, you can become a more confident person.
Another benefit of overcoming your shyness is that, without that timidity, you tend to take advantage of new opportunities that come your way.
These tips and tricks will help you conquer shyness:
- Accept your personality. It’s truly important for you to accept yourself for the person that you are. You can never be anyone but you. If you’re a quiet person from time to time, so be it. There is just as much beauty in the personality of a quiet person as there is in an outgoing person.
- Put yourself out there. When you’re shy, you’re more likely to avoid social situations altogether. This only makes the problem worse. If you make the effort to participate, you’ll become more comfortable in every social gathering.
- Avoid running away. Even if you’re feeling especially awkward and anxiety ridden, get through the situation as best as you can.
- Learn to relax. When you’re feeling shy, your mind begins to race. You might be thinking about all the things that can go wrong and you’ll find it impossible to relax. Instead of thinking about what might happen, concentrate on the present and on what actually is happening.
- Practice your social skills. If you’re shy in social situations, try to practice your communication and social skills in non-threatening environments, such as with family or close friends. This will take away some of the scary “unknowns” that might be causing you to be afraid.
- Use visualizations. Visualizations can be very powerful. They can help you relax and get past the anxiety associated with shyness.
- Focus on someone else. Place all of your focus on the person you’re sharing a conversation with. Really listen to what they’re saying. If your energy is focused away from how you feel, you’ll be less likely to be overtaken with the feelings of shyness.
Take small steps, but take action to step out of your comfort zone.
Afterwards, you can evaluate what you went through so you can grow from it. Ask yourself why you felt the way you did and see if you can correct the problem for next time.
If you begin to panic, use relaxation and breathing techniques to calm yourself down.
Close your eyes and think about yourself in a situation where you’d normally feel shy or panicky. Instead of feeling overwhelmed with negative emotions, visualize yourself as completely confident and happy.
It may also help you to encourage the other person to do more of the talking. Use open-ended questions where they can launch into a whole story or explanation instead of just answering yes or no questions.
Shyness is a combination of fears and feelings that are reinforced by habits. Use these strategies to help you change your habits and your feelings of shyness will dissipate along with the old habits!
This life success tips article is courtesy of Inspired Abundance (InspiredAbundance.com)
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No Comments »Happiness Tips, Your Happiness Is Your Choice
Happiness is a choice and that’s one of the best happiness tips you will ever receive.
Do you feel unhappy and trapped in your present circumstances? It’s not an uncommon feeling, especially in today’s modern world. And it’s easy to believe you’re trapped without choices, that you’re somehow at the mercy of everything and everyone around you … that somehow your happiness depends on things over which you have no control.
Let me ask you this question: who is responsible for your happiness? Shouldn’t it be you?
I’m here to tell you that you have complete and total control over your happiness. If you find that hard to believe, let me explain.
- Your happiness is your Choice. If you’re unhappy with where you are, recognize you are where you are because of the choices and decisions you’ve made up to now in your life. This is something that you may or may not at first blush agree with and it’s something that took me a long time to understand.
We’re conditioned to believe we have no choices. We live where we live because that’s where our parents lived. We work where we work because it’s the only job we believe we can get. The result is that we tend to get stuck in the status quo because we believe we have no choice. Yet the truth is we always have a choice and, in fact, doing nothing to change our circumstances is in itself, a choice.
If you don’t like your job, why not look for another one? If you don’t want a job, why not start your own business? If you don’t like where you live, why not look for somewhere else to live?
Too often, we get caught in the trap of waiting for something or someone else to bring change to us, failing to realize that our happiness is our responsibility and no one else’s. You always have a choice to accept things the way they are or to begin to do something about it.
- Choose your own thoughts. Taking personal responsibility for your happiness begins by beginning to deliberately choose your thoughts. Rather than buying into all of the “no you can’t” monkey chatter, start to deliberately think “yes I can”.
When you start deliberately choosing your thoughts, all of a sudden you begin to feel inspired and you start to look at the world and your circumstances in another way. You begin to see opportunities rather than problems. You begin to shift your mindset away from being a victim of your circumstances.
- Take the action. Once you begin to choose your own thoughts and start identifying opportunities, you begin to feel inspired. You start to feel yourself compelled to take certain actions that will begin to move you towards what you want. The minute you begin to take actions, you’ve begun the cycle of assuming responsibility for your results — and for your happiness.
If you’re not willing or afraid to take an action, ask yourself how badly you really want change. If you really want it badly enough, then take responsibility for initiating the action. There’s no point waiting for someone else to because that’s only going to prolong the current situation in which you’re unhappy.
If this article makes sense to you, here’s something you can take action on right now:
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