Do you find yourself often being judgmental of others and criticizing them? Are you also critical of yourself? You may have formed a habit of judgmental thinking that you didn’t realize you had.
Being judgmental is a common issue and can have negative emotional consequences. Although some level of criticism is normal, frequently judging others or yourself can lead you down the path of negativity, suffering, and misery.
Judging usually involves negative emotions. You focus on the negative qualities you see in others and yourself. You miss out on the positive aspects.
Because of the negative feelings you cause when you judge or criticize, you can destroy friendships and relationships. You can sabotage connections at work or other places. Life can become very difficult.
One of the worst negative emotional effects of a judgmental mindset is that you criticize yourself as well as others. Your self-talk becomes very negative as you mentally beat yourself up, and your self-confidence plummets.
If you’re struggling with a judgmental mindset, take heart. Whether you’re criticizing another person or feeling bad about yourself, you can break the cycle. You don’t have to remain in the pain that it causes.
Use this process to avoid judging yourself and others:
The first step is to recognize how many of your thoughts and feelings are judgmental. Monitor your thoughts. Notice how much time you spend on judging and criticizing, both yourself and others.
You probably don’t enjoy being judged by others, and remembering these feelings can help you avoid doing it yourself. To help you be more patient, keep in mind that everyone’s human and will make mistakes from time to time.
No one can see into another person’s soul and read their past! In fact, you most likely don’t know why they think or behave the way that they do.
Everyone has faults, idiosyncrasies, and issues. Learn to accept these challenges you see in others without judging them or making them feel bad.
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